Sunday, March 20, 2016

The Sadie Hawkins: My Turn to be A Guy

The girls ask the guys It’s always a surprise. 

The chipper senior made the announcement to pockets of applause around the hall. Huh?  A Sadie Hawkins? Wasn’t that the lyric of some strange Reliant K song? I leaned over and quietly asked my suitemate if they meant what I thought they meant. Yep. If I wanted a date, I needed to ask the guy myself. Well, shoot. 

They’re telling this to the girl who has enough trouble getting a guy to ask her to anything! Now I’m supposed to ask a guy? A mix of thoughts swirled in my head. Asking a guy didn’t seem like my thing. But then, why not? I could be bold and ask right? 

Essentially, it's my turn to take the initiative. I usually expect the gentlemen to handle that. In the past, I’ve often felt let down by the initiative guys show when it’s their responsibility. It seemed like a shame that girls should have to go to formal events alone. Of course, I understand that the poor guys are outnumbered on most college campuses. There are too many girls for them all to have a date. Even if that was the case, it never seemed right that guys still show up without a date. It is not as if they lacked choices! 

Dates to dances or events don’t have to turn into romantic relationships. There’s enough pressure in dressing up and eating without looking like a fool to worry about romance am I right? If I were ever asked by a guy, all I would ask is a pleasant evening of conversation and quality time as friends. Is that too much to ask? For years, I had held to the opinion that guys should just buck up and ask a girl! Be bold! 

Ha, now I had to apply that same mantra to myself. Do I have any crushes I wanted to ask out? Nope. For that matter…do I have any guy friends I wanted to ask to the Sadie Hawkins? Uh…I’ve got a problem. Most of the guys I talk to already have girlfriends…or are engaged. Okay, so do I know any single guys that I feel comfortable asking? Another problem. I have this thing were it takes a long time for me to make friends with guys. I know, I’m awful. (If you’re a guy that I know, please don’t be offended by that. You get extra brownie-points for even reading this)

Is this what guys face when they try to find a date for a formal event? If so, I now know your pain! I promise I’ll never judge again if you ultimately decide not to ask anyone at all! You feel the pressure to provide someone with a date. You also want to pick someone you could have a good time with without the pressure of romance. 

So does anyone like my sweater? Have I figured out who I’m asking to the Sadie Hawkins? I thought of several possibilities, but I might just default to another single ladies date. There’s nothing wrong with that. :)


  1. It is funny to have things switched around, because I've been in the place of wanting someone to ask me for my Bible school's formal spring event (one guy did ask me, but he was pretty strange, so I declined). But if it was me who had to ask a guy? I think I'd end up going with a group of girls too. :)

    1. It is weird isn't it? I never realized guys had such a complicated job ahead of them when they have to decide whether to ask a girl or not. Poor things :)
      I'm leaning towards going with a group of single lady friends. We'll have fun and all that just fine :)

  2. I like the Sadie Hawkins. I am not saying that I didn't go through the same things you did. I definitely did, and I honestly ended up asking a guy friend instead of a guy I like. I think either way, it'll be fun, but it is kind of interesting to be in the place of a guy on this one. It's nerve-racking to ask a guy to anything, especially banquet!

    1. Yay! I'm so glad you came by Lydia :)
      You're right of course. Either way I'm determined to have fun. That is the vital ingredient in both options I think. I went to the Midnight Cruise alone even though I wanted a date. I danced and had fun all by myself. It's still niggling at the back of my mind that I should ask a random guy. Who knows? I might.
      Thanks for commenting!


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