The Sadie Hawkins: My Turn to be A Guy

The girls ask the guys It’s always a surprise. 

The chipper senior made the announcement to pockets of applause around the hall. Huh?  A Sadie Hawkins? Wasn’t that the lyric of some strange Reliant K song? I leaned over and quietly asked my suitemate if they meant what I thought they meant. Yep. If I wanted a date, I needed to ask the guy myself. Well, shoot. 

They’re telling this to the girl who has enough trouble getting a guy to ask her to anything! Now I’m supposed to ask a guy? A mix of thoughts swirled in my head. Asking a guy didn’t seem like my thing. But then, why not? I could be bold and ask right? 

Essentially, it's my turn to take the initiative. I usually expect the gentlemen to handle that. In the past, I’ve often felt let down by the initiative guys show when it’s their responsibility. It seemed like a shame that girls should have to go to formal events alone. Of course, I understand that the poor guys are outnumbered on most college campuses. There are too many girls for them all to have a date. Even if that was the case, it never seemed right that guys still show up without a date. It is not as if they lacked choices! 

Dates to dances or events don’t have to turn into romantic relationships. There’s enough pressure in dressing up and eating without looking like a fool to worry about romance am I right? If I were ever asked by a guy, all I would ask is a pleasant evening of conversation and quality time as friends. Is that too much to ask? For years, I had held to the opinion that guys should just buck up and ask a girl! Be bold! 

Ha, now I had to apply that same mantra to myself. Do I have any crushes I wanted to ask out? Nope. For that matter…do I have any guy friends I wanted to ask to the Sadie Hawkins? Uh…I’ve got a problem. Most of the guys I talk to already have girlfriends…or are engaged. Okay, so do I know any single guys that I feel comfortable asking? Another problem. I have this thing were it takes a long time for me to make friends with guys. I know, I’m awful. (If you’re a guy that I know, please don’t be offended by that. You get extra brownie-points for even reading this)

Is this what guys face when they try to find a date for a formal event? If so, I now know your pain! I promise I’ll never judge again if you ultimately decide not to ask anyone at all! You feel the pressure to provide someone with a date. You also want to pick someone you could have a good time with without the pressure of romance. 

So does anyone like my sweater? Have I figured out who I’m asking to the Sadie Hawkins? I thought of several possibilities, but I might just default to another single ladies date. There’s nothing wrong with that. :)